All right. So you have to create
a very powerful context.
Now, if you had a buffet line, and go out and you say, well,
everyone take whatever food you want, and eat whatever you want,
take care of your own table, and then leave some money over there.
It's not going to be Karma Kitchen,
it's not going to trigger a response of generosity, of compassion, of connection.
None of that.
But if you walk in, and you see that, oh, it's a volunteer run restaurant.
So the person who's at the door,
it doesn't feel like someone is trying to manipulate you in some way.
It's like a volunteer saying, look, I could be at home watching TV, but
instead I'm here.
And then, they explain it with, there's just this effusive smile, and
you feel that they explain the idea, and you're just like, wow.
Some people break down in tears just there.
And then they come in, and they start to see, wow,
the whole place is all volunteer run.
There's a guy in the back doing dishes.
There's somebody plating.
There's somebody serving your tables, and cleaning your tables.
And all of them have volunteered.
And they're volunteering just to give me this experience, right?
And then you sit down.
You have a meal.
When you sit on this table, underneath the table, there's a positive quote, right?
So it starts to get you thinking in that way.
So now you're in a different frame of reference, but
now there's this nice quote.
On the side you see that, oh, there's a kindness table.
This is where people have left all kinds of goodies just for other guests.
On your table might be a note that somebody, who came before you on that
table, left for you, and then you write for somebody after you.
In between, especially if you have kids, you're waiting for
your meal, and the server comes, and they bust out a smile deck.
A smile deck, is a deck of cards with a kindness idea on each card.
Right? And it's like a fun little game.
You shuffle up the cards.
You pick a card.
And you have to go out and do that act of kindness.
>> [LAUGH] >> And kids love it, right?
And it's the kind of thing, where you'll hear it, and you'll say, well,
what's the big deal?
But when it actually happens, and in the process of actually taking that card and
saying, wow, now am I going to do it?
Your brain starts to release very different kind of chemicals, and
you feel very different, right?
And then in between all of this, you may take a look at the restaurant,
and you're like, wow, no one is paying for their own self.
And that just kind of fills you up.
And then you get your check.