>> So when it comes to relationships, how do we start off with making a good impression? It seems self-presentation is really everything. >> Yeah. And a lot of people when they think of self-presentation, it seems like physical appearance, sort of false friend in everyone’s mind. And you know, really just how can I make myself be physically attractive. I am not gonna to lie, but spend a lot of time looking on Youtube about makeup contouring, I still do not understand what it is But people do it and it’s like crazy how much people spend just trying to look good to impress others. And you know, selfie, and sort of obsession >> on social media with the getting the perfect picture. And sort of what is that achieve. Right. And when I was reading in the course content is really that as much as physical appearance plays a role. It’s so much than a make-up and clothes we are wearing, like our posture, like our tone voice, if we are smiling that kind of thing. That all play a role too in everything. Yeah. I think there is such a big, like physical appearance is just one small aspect out of so many different things. And if your physical appearance maybe does not match your attitude >> or your behaviour, or how you sort of express yourself towards other people and how much physical appearance really gets you That’s so true. I remember in high school how it was really cool to kind of act that you don’t care have this look about you, maybe be slushed over like, you know, have the bad head look. Yeah. It like still comes down to making that first impression. You know, >> when you think about teenagers in high school, >> That look is like what it is >> what was their goal, what was they trying to achieve with putting on sort of that attitude that look is like, you know, if the goal is to impress others, how is that achieving at? And I guess on top of that, who are those others, is that their peers, is that adult, is that children? That is also so catering to the overall assessment of why they are doing and what they are doing. Right, right. And I think that is why I really agree with the point that the context and the goal are what you trying to achieve should really reflecting your self-representation. >> You make me think about one of my good friends who maybe objectively, people do not necessarily find him to be so attractive in terms of his physical appearance. But in terms of his confidence, his abilities, and kind of the way he presents himself, that always plays to how attractive he is to others. He is so good at making friends.
And he never has problem in finding a romantic partner. It totally comes down to some of those more positive feelings one has for himself. Yeah, and I think it just >> we don’t judge people just what we see them. And you know, maybe if someone went to see a friend, maybe they would not automatically approach him based on the first sight. But if when they turn to interact with him, and turn to share experience with him, maybe they more likely to become friends and then develop some relationship and interaction even. What people pay more attention to is physical appearances. It does have a role, but it is important to look at the whole picture. The view point expressed by the course tutors are the following. One, we have to pay attention to the context we are in. Two, pay attention to the goal that we wish to accomplish such as what impression
we are trying to get or who are we trying to impress. >> And lastly, the kind of relationship we want to build with someone we are interacting with. By considering the context and goal, we can manage how we present ourselves. Our presentation of selves include physical appearance, demeanour, projection of own personality, and confidence and presence.
