Do we truly think that we have lived for ourselves? Perhaps we have lived for money, love, fame, family and pride etc.? Therefore, we don’t seem to be satisfied even though we are full of those things. It is because that we don’t know ourselves. Eric Fromm talked about human nature as two modes of being: “To Have” and “To Be”. If we are “Having” the nature of possessions, we are not satisfied, and feel empty and futile. Then, how can we be “Being” the nature of our inner-selves? Sometimes, we happened to be aware of this “Being” nature and try to change ourselves, but fail. But, because of our daily routines, it’s easily forgotten. And more it is hard to escape from our unwanted minds controlling us. From now on, let us reflect on ourselves and look at our minds leading up to today! Don’t we achieve our goals after knowing ourselves? And let us find the “Being” nature of our original selves after escaping from the minds restraining and controlling us. In this lecture, the definition and principle of the mind are explained in simple and clear ways. You can make sure and practice the methodology of finding the true original mind of inner-self by escaping from the false mind of possession. Self-reflection is the first step to meditate. You can know yourselves most objectively through meditation and you will realize that all the thoughts and actions are due to your minds which are nonexistent and false. If you throw away the false mind, you will find the true mind. Meditation is now world-wide sensation. There are many research reports that show people can be leaders if you have a habit of self-reflection through meditation. Now meditation at school and the workplace are popular. Happiness is having no worries. You can really relax yourself if there is no bundle of thoughts and you can be successful when you know yourself truly. Worries come from the memorized thoughts of the false mind. Your inner potential of positive power are revealed, your peaceful and happiest mind will be in your mind, and you can live the life you wanted through meditation. This method of meditation is very practical and everybody can follow the methodology. As an engineer, I will guide you step by step to practice this meditation. I am sure that this lecture becomes a turning point in your life.
1-3. Draw my life graph
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Meditation: A way to achieve your goals in your life
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1 Necessity of self-reflection
Self- reflection is the methodology of meditation for growth, happiness and human completion: (1) Why do we need self-reflection?, (2) Academic research on self-reflection, (3) Draw my life graph, and (4) Ultimate purpose of self-reflection
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Duck-Joo LeeProfessor
Aerospace Engineering
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In this class, we will draw our life graph.
A life graph indicates the important moments in your life.
Through the graph, you will know what kind of events occurred during your life,
how you viewed them and how you responded to important moments.
At the same time, you will know what you think is important in life,
and the criteria for life satisfaction.
We will view samples to understand the purpose of
the exercise before drawing our own graphs.
This is a middle school student graph.
His early childhood was happy, but suddenly the graph
drops because of the death of pet gold fish at seven years old.
School was fun but then a pet lizard died at 13 years old.
Now the student is happy again with his family and other pets.
This is another sample.
This girl seems to be happy all the time.
She enjoyed her childhood because she was discovering new things in the world.
Her graph drops around age eight
because she had to get up only in the morning for elementary school.
She wanted to play with her friend, but she had to study at school.
When she was 14, her best friend moved to another school.
She seems to have a happy life in kindergarten with a good friend.
Enjoyed the ice skating with her first boyfriend
in elementary school at ten years old.
She loved her teacher and her mother, and
at 13 years old, she told the boy she liked him but was refused.
At 14, she was assigned to a different class and separated from her close friend.
Significant emotional changes.
She traveled to Germany, Austria, Czech Republic.
Scenery was beautiful in Hungary.
The boys at school made fun of her.
Later they were assigned to a different school, but
still, the first year, middle school was hard.
You can clearly see the peak and
the lowest points of the graph.
Here is the graph of a person in mid-20s.
Overall, it is not bad.
High points include: New bag after finishing one at piano school,
New room at home, and the first trip with friends in middle school.
Peaks were, after starting college, not having to study as hard,
and passing, the teachers' examination.
Low points are waiting for mother outside in the rain,
when her mother was not at home.
death of grandmother, and quarrel with best friends.
This is another adult graph.
People ages 10, he or she could have everything he or she wanted.
Pet, food, diet, good grade,
didn't get into the first choice university,
successful at work, death in family.
After starting self-reflection and mind subtraction
he maintained his top of satisfaction.
There were no special big events.
There are several graph drawn by various types of people, adolescents,
adults and people after they practiced subtraction of mind.
People have a different experiences and thoughts and memories.
Isn't it interesting that the long journey of life can be drawn on this one graph.
You may have many memories but, let's draw the curve
of your life based on the high and the low points.
This exercise can show how satisfied you are with your life.
Now, you can draw your own life graph.
If you click on the link button.
Go to test, you can start.
Please fill out the name, email, and age.
You can see this graph.
You can check the radio button to set the degree of satisfaction for each period.
If you check the highest or
lowest number in those periods, it will be easy to see the graph.
If you touch the button,
you will get your life graph soon.
What happened to you at the peak and lowest points at each period?
How do you feel now looking at the points.
At the peak position you will smile, at the lowest,
painful memories will cause a different reaction.
Even the same situation, the score will be different depending on the person.
Even at the peak position,
the response will be different according to the individual.
When the life graph goes down, some can handle the situation well,
while others are unprepared.
Satisfaction with life shown
on the graph is subjective and unique to each individual.
This graph cannot be objective even in the same situation.
To enhance the quality of life, it is necessary to control your reactions
to different situations and learn to manage your mind.
In other words, satisfaction with life depends on
how you see the world and the state of your mind.
In the graph, dissatisfaction is due to the gap
between what you want and the current status.
Through self reflection, you can eliminate
the gap between your current state and what you want.
It is the same principle of balls in the lotto box.
Pull out your elements of dissatisfaction one by one inside you,
as you pull out the balls one by one in the lotto box.
Then possibility of dissatisfaction decrease drastically.
And you will be at the top of the satisfaction.
This is my life graph.
The high school days were not too bad.
Almost peaked around 30.
Then it went down and down to the bottom.
And now it has recovered to the level of my younger days.
It goes to the top of the satisfaction.
What happens at the bottom?
How can I recover?
After self-reflection and
the subtracting thought of memories in the past life,
the degree of satisfaction drastically increases.
Everything goes well also after the subtraction.
And my response to people and the event becomes very flexible.
Your response to difficulty and harder times depends on your inner strength.
Have you heard of resilience?
Resilience engineering is to learn how to respond to
the irregular and/or unexpected events.
Resilience is the ability of the mind to overcome
various difficulties and failures.
Each material has different elasticity and
the same principle applies to people's elasticity.
People with strong resilience who hit
rock bottom can rebound to even higher positions.
Successful individuals or organizations with sustainable growth
have all overcome difficulties and failures at one point.
You can be happy or unhappy, depending on how
you choose to look at unfortunate events and the difficulties.
Fostering a habit of positive thinking will remarkably improve your resilience.
Resilience is the power to rebound from the bottom,
the mind muscle that enables you to recover from your lowest point.
You can be at high or low point.
When at high point, you can leap higher.
When at a low point, you can return to or exceed your Normal state.
Through self-reflection, you can understand yourself better and
improve your resilience by subtracting the negative thinking and
allowing you to live the life you want.
Taking this self reflection course will be very beneficial.
Now, you have drawn your life graph.
What is the criteria for your satisfaction with life?
Your happiness?
How other people evaluate you?
Social status?
Is your satisfaction based on the opinions of people around you?
Life is full of events we can not predict.
Many times, we are most impacted because of the people around us.
You have lived your life thus far.
And you will live your life hereafter.
Next class, we will talk about self-leadership.
